“You’re worth so much more than your waistline.
You’re worth the beautiful thoughts you think,
And the daring dreams you dream, undone and drunk off alcohol of being.
But sometimes we forget that.”
Savannah Brown wrote a slam poem in 2013 in response to a video that a few boys made about what girls should be like.
I never thought this was a problem at Foothill. I didn’t think that my school was a place where bullying happened or where people were judged, but I was wrong.
Let me preface this by saying that I understand boys go through difficult times in high school as well as girls. They have pressure from the media to be strong, muscular and manly.
However, no man has to put up with what girls do in high school and let me explain why.
Three and a half months ago I had to start a sugar free, low carb diet. Not because I was desperate to lose weight or because it was some new fad, but because I was having medical issues and this was the way to solve it.
I mentioned this to a friend of mine when she offered me a donut, but didn’t explain the medical part, because who would judge me, right?
Wrong.
The boy sitting next to her scoffed and rolled his eyes at me, muttering something to himself about sugar.
I wanted to scream at him and tell him that he doesn’t know me and that he doesn’t ‘t have the right to judge my dietary decisions.
But, I didn’t.
Instead, I thought about how ironic his scoff and mutterings were.
All of our lives, girls are told they have to look a certain way or behave in a particular manner. It’s not socially acceptable to be heavier set than others or have acne or snort when you laugh.
But of course, it’s okay for boys.
We have to try different diets to maintain a weight we didn’t necessarily want in the first place, dye our hair because blondes are treated as having a lower IQ level, and dumb down that very same IQ level because a woman with a mission and an intelligence level to express it is simply a hysterical female.
So why then, boy who scoffed at me, are you judging me for being on a diet that will make me lose weight when:
1. You don’t know why I’m on it in the first place
2. You never bothered to ask
3. You are clearly educated, but don’t understand that girls are under constant pressure to be beautiful.
I know there are boys and men out there that understand what women go through. I know there are some that face it themselves, but all I can see is that girls are constantly told to wear longer shorts while I see at least four half naked Marilyn Monroe decked t-shirts being sported by boys who don’t seem to care about the integrity of a woman who was once called a goddess.
Do they even know that Miss Norma Jeane Mortenson had an IQ of 168? She was the first woman to own her own production company, and she once said, “a sex symbol becomes a thing. I just hate to be a thing.”
You are making her a thing by wearing that shirt with her clad in tattoos she never had, smoking a cigar, which she never did, and lying naked, which she never posed for.
This may seem like a long rant about why girls are underrepresented, but believe me, this is a column I put a lot of thought into and waited two weeks after the scoffing incident to write so that I wouldn’t just write a typical hysterical woman rant.
To the men who understand everything I just wrote, I praise you and hope that you will teach other men to think the way you do.
To the women who can relate to everything I just wrote, please remember that you are not a thing, you are not a cow the media can probe with a stick, and as Brown said, “You don’t need diet pills to slim your kindness down.”
Anonymous • Mar 6, 2014 at 10:50 am
I don’t mean to insult your opinion, but I think that you are making yourself a “thing” by writing this article. Just by titling it “Don’t make me a thing” you a making yourself this “thing.” And by saying that you waited two weeks too post this article because you didn’t want it labeled as a “hysterical women rant” makes it a “hysterical women rant.” Honey, if not all, most boys understand that girls have a lot more pressure on themselves physically than guys do. That boy wasn’t scoffing at you because he didn’t understand, he was probably scoffing because he thought that you didn’t need to lose weight.
Plus your article tangents into talking about Marilyn Monroe (which, in my opinion doesn’t make much sense), but Monroe was a seen by the public as a sex symbol, because she posed naked for playboy. Yes, she may be seen by some as a “goddess” but she was just a women used her body as a way to make money. Did you know that she allegedly made a sex tape with former president John f. Kennedy and his brother Robert. Yes, she as a women made those decisions, which I can respect. But that made her a sex symbol. She made herself a “thing.” Those shirts didn’t make her a thing, hell, did you know her personally, are you sure that she never smoked a cigar, are you sure that she never had any tattoos. Those shirts are just an exaggeration of what she is, a sex symbol.
So to sum things up, you MADE yourself a thing through this article. This WAS a rant. And Monroe WASN’T a perfect innocent angel.
Excuse me • Mar 9, 2014 at 9:28 am
Marilyn Monroe did not pose nude for playboy. She was convinced to by an independent photographer, Tom Kelley, who then leaked the photos and they were put onto calendars. Playboy then published one of the photos, making her the first playmate. She was paid for this, and every modelling shoot she did. She was a smart woman and her ditzy blonde thing was a persona for movies. Of course she wasn’t an angel, but he did what she could to get famous in a world of men. Sex sells and she sold it. I commend her for it.
The authour was asking to be respected and for other women to be respected. She doesn’t want to be a “thing” so don’t go on and tell her there is no hope, that she will always be a thing in men’s eyes. I would say most boys don’t know what it’s like to grow up in a female body. They just care what they look like.
Anonymous • Mar 11, 2014 at 10:14 am
Well as a response to your first paragraph, if she really wanted to be an independent, she could have done a multitude of other things, sex isn’t the only thing that sells, and if the author, or you “excuse me” really wanted to talk about change and being “things” than she would have written about how we can overcome being a “thing” and how we can overcome a world seemingly ruled by men. Just the fact that you say that this world is a “world of men” is contradictory to feminism in general.
I’m not telling her there is no hope, I’m telling her that if she doesn’t want to be a “thing” than she should stop making herself a “thing.” And, as I stated in my previous comment, many, if not most men, do have an idea of what it’s like to be a women, and I never said that she was making herself a “thing” in men’s eyes. I was saying that she is making herself a “thing” in general. And I also never mentioned that I only cared what girls look like, actually, my opinion is on the opposite of the spectrum.
In a slight way, I can see that are attempting to be a feminist, but as a feminist shouldn’t you think a little bit about WHY Monroe’s “only” choice to make money was becoming a sex symbol, and how we can correct that today?
And to comment on your name being “Excuse me,” you’re excused.